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Local Support Groups

When you experience the death of a loved one, you are often left unprepared for the overwhelming emotional, physical and spiritual upheaval that follows. At Abels & French-Hand Funeral Homes we understand that our support to you does not end with the funeral service. Rather, our pledge is to continue to serve and care for you in the time following the funeral experience. For this reason, we offer a multi-faceted AfterCare program. 

Throughout the year you will experience special days and times of tradition and the need for a listening ear. It is our honor to be present to you during these times especially. We are privileged to recognize the continued significance of your loved one in your life and the relationship of memory you share with them now. 

 Bridges Support Group 

Bridges to Hope Grief Support Group provides education and support for the physical, emotional and spiritual demands of grief. The group will be most beneficial for those whose loss occurred three or more months ago. For more information about Bridges to Hope Grief Support Group or for referral to a grief group in your area, please call Robyn at 319.824.3319 or 319.830.4333. 

 AfterCare Events and Activities

Cherish the Child – Walk to Remember – held annually near Memorial Day this very special event is for anyone who wants to honor the memory of a child who has died at any age (miscarriage – adulthood). For more information contact Robyn. 

Family Resource Guide – includes helps for taking care of final business and helps for taking care of yourself and your family in this time of loss and grief.

Hope Newsletter – published twice annually with news of upcoming AfterCare activities and articles to help you find hope and healing in times of grief.

 Web Links 

For Adults:

  1. (Dr. Alan Wolfelt, Center for Loss and Life Transition)
  2. (resources for children and adults)
  3. (National Institute for Trauma and Loss in Children / Parent Resource Center)
  4. (for those who have lost a child at any age)
  5. (Darcie Sims, Ph.D.)

For Children's Grief Support:

North Central & North East Iowa: Eucalyptus Tree, a program of Cedar Valley Hospice

Northern Iowa: Camp Green Tree A program of Hospice of North Iowa, Camp Green Tree is an overnight camp for grieving children. To learn more contact Autumn Hawver at 1.800.297.4719

Across Iowa: Amanda the Panda

Eastern Iowa & Western Illinois: Rick's House of Hope for Grieving and Traumatized Children

Web-based support for grieving teens with articles to read and on-line support group moderated by a certified hospice bereavement counselor:

 Reading List for Adult Grief Support

After the Flowers: Life Beyond Widowhood - M. Nye

After Suicide - John H. Hewett

All Alone: Surviving the Loss of Your Spouse - Kathleen Rawlings Buntin

A Man You Know is Grieving-James Miller& Thomas Golden

But I Never Thought He'd Die: Practical Help for Widows - M. Nye

Chicken Soup for the Grieving Soul: Stories About Life, Death and Overcoming the Loss of a Loved One - Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen

Coping with Life after Your Mate Dies - D. Cushenberry and R.C. Cushenberry

Doors Close, Doors Open: Widows Grieving and Growing - M. Lieberman

Father Loss, How Sons of All Ages Come to Terms With the Death of Their Dads-Neil Chetnik

Footsteps Through Grief-Darcie D. Sims & Alicia S. Franklin

Good Grief-Granger Westburg

The Grief Recovery Handbook - John W. James, Russell Friedman

Healing a Father's Grieving Heart-William Shatz
For men

Healing the Adult Siblings Grieving Heart-Alan D. Wolfelt Ph.D.
100 practical helps for the unique grief after the death of a sibling

Hello from Heaven-Bill and Judy Guggenheim

How to Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies - Therese A. Rando, Ph.D.

I'm Grieving as Fast as I Can: How Young Widows and Widowers Can Cope and Heal - L. Feinberg

Instantly a Widow - R. Sissom
A Christian faith perspective on healing after sudden loss

I Remember, I Remember-Enid Traisman
A keepsake journal for the whole family to cherish

Just Us-Wanda Henry Jenkins
For those who have lost a loved one by homicide

Letter to My Husband: Notes About Mourning and Recovery - J. Truman

Living in the Shadow of the Ghosts of Grief-Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.
This compassionate guide will help you learn to identify and mourn your carried grief so you can go on to live the joyful, whole life you deserve.

Living with Grief, Loss in Later Life - Kenneth J. Doka

Living with Grief at Work, School, Worship - Joyce D. Davidson

Losing a Parent-Fiona Marshall

Military Widow: A Survival Guide-Joanne M. Steen & M. Regina

Moments for Those Who Have Lost a Loved One - Lois Mowday Rabey

Older Bereaved Spouses - D. Lund

The Other Side of Grief-Darcie D. Sims & Alicia S. Franklin
For those who have been on the path of grief for sometime and wonder 'What does the other side of grief look like?'

Starting Over: Help for Young Widows and Widowers - Adele Nudel

Suicide Survivor's Handbook-Trudy Carlson

Survival Handbook for Widows (and for relatives and friends who want to understand) - R. J. Loewinsohn

Understanding Your Grief - Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.
10 Essential Touchstones for Finding Hope

Tear Soup-Pat Schweibert

When Men Grieve-Elizabeth Levang
For women who want to better understand how men grieve

When Someone You Love Completes Suicide-Sondra Sexton Jones

Why Are the Casseroles Always Tuna?-Darcie Sims

Widow to Widow-Genevieve Davis Ginsburg

Women in Mourning-Jean Clayton

The Widow's Financial Survival Guide-Nancy Dunnan

The Widow's Handbook: A Guide for Living - C. Foehner and C. Cozart

The Wilderness of Grief: Finding Your Way-Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.

 Reading List for Children, Adolescents, & Those Who Care for Them

After a Parent's Suicide - Margo Requarth, MN MFT
Helping children heal

A Child's View of Grief-Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.
For parents and other caregivers

Brave Bart-Caroline Sheppard
A story for traumatized and grieving children

But I Didn't Say Good-bye: Helping Children and Families After a Suicide- Barbara Rubel

Don't Despair on Thursdays-Adolf Moser

Explaining Death to Children - Earl A. Grollman

Facing Change - Donna O'Toole
Falling apart and coming together again in the teen years - A book about change for teens

Healing Your Grieving Heart for Kids-Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph. D
100 Practical ideas, simple advice, and activities for children after death

Healing Your Grieving Heart for Teens - Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.
100 Practical ideas, simple advice, and activities for teenagers after death

How It Feels When a Parent Dies-Jill Krementz

I Heard Your Mommy Died-Mark Scrivani & Susan Aitken

I Heard Your Daddy Died-Mark Scrivani & Susan Aitken

I Miss You: A First Look at Death-Pat Thomas & Leslie Harker

Lifetimes: The Beautiful Way to Explain Death to Children-Bryan Mellonie & Robert Ingpen

Ready...Set...R.E.L.A.X.-Jeffery S. Allen & Roger J. Klein
For ages 5-13. Exercises and activities to help children overcome anxiety

Sarah's Journey-Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.

Sad Isn't Bad-Michaelene Mundy & R. W. Alley

What's Heaven - Maria Shriver

When Dinosaurs Die: A Guide to Understanding Death-Laurie Krasny Brown & Marc Brown

 Reading List for Those Who Have Lost a Child

Empty Cradle, Broken Heart - Deborah L. Davis, Ph.D.
Surviving the death of your baby

For Better or Worse-The Centering Corporation
A book to strengthen marriages after a child dies

Grief of Parent: When a Child Dies-The Compassionate Friends

The Grief of Grandparents-Centering Corporation

Later Courtney: A Mother Says Goodbye-Susan Evans

Miscarriage - Sherokee Ilse and Linda Hammer Burns

Miscarriage: A Man's Book-Rick Wheat

Our Stories of Miscarriage - Rachel Faldet and Karen Fitton

Remembering the Death of a Child - Robert R. Thompson, M.D.

Silent Cradle - Judy Gordon Morrow and Nancy Gorden
Help and understanding in time of pregnancy loss

Silent Sorrow - Guidance and Support for You and Your Family - Ingred Kohn, MSW and Perry-Lynn Moffitt

Strong and Tender-Perinatal Loss
A guide for the father whose baby has died

When Winter Follows Spring-Dorothy Ferguson

Waiting with Gabriel - Amy Kuebeleck
A story of cherishing a baby's brief life

When a Baby Dies - Rana K Limbo, Sara Rich Wheeler and Susan T. Hassel

The Worse Loss : How Families Heal From the Death of a Child- Barbara D. Rose

 Music Selections

To comfort your soul & express the feelings words alone cannot convey

Artist Selection
James Taylor Live Secret of Life
Andrea Bocelli & Celine Dion The Prayer
Kenny Loggins Return to Pooh Corner
Leeann Womack I Hope You Dance
Marc Cohn The Things We've Handed Down
Mary Chapin Carpenter 10,000 Miles
Steven Curtis Chapman Cinderella
Josh Groban To Where You Are
Josh Groban You Raise Me Up
Celine Dion Fly
Simon & Garfunkel Old Friends and Bookends
Kathy Zavada My Angel
Reba McIntyre If I'd Only Have Known
John McDermott One Small Star
Ashley Gearing Can You Hear Me When I Talk to You?
Luther Vandross Dance With My Father
Neil Diamond I Believe in Happy Endings
Barry Manilow Memory
Barry Manilow This One's For You
Barry Manilow When October Goes
Ray Boltz An Anchor Holds
Ray Boltz My Father's Son
Chris Tomlin I Will Rise
Chris Tomlin Strength Will Rise (based on Isaiah 40)
Mark Shultz Walking Her Home
Mark Shultz He Will Carry Me
MercyMe I Can Only Imagine
Steven Curtis Chapman Be Still and Know
Steven Curtis Chapman With Hope

The following songs come from Christian Hymnody:

There is a Balm in Gilead African American Spiritual
Amazing Grace John Newton 1770
It is Well With My Soul Horatio Spafford 1873- a song of faith written upon the death of his four daughters by shipwreck. For the complete story of this and other hymns see the book Amazing Grace: 366 Inspiring Hymn Stories for Daily Devotions.
This is a Day of New Beginnings Brian Wren, 1978
Something Beautiful Gloria and William Gaither, 1971
Because He Lives William Gaither, 1971
Precious Lord, Take My Hand Thomas A. Dorsey, 1932
Hymn of Promise Natalie Sleeth, 1986
What a Friend We Have in Jesus Joseph Scriven, 1855


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